My wife Dee and I met online via email. It all started on May 2nd, 2012 when I emailed her, a simple “hey.” I always knew I was gay, but I never acted on it. She lived in Orangeburg, South Carolina and I lived in Chester, South Carolina at the time. We approximately lived 1 hour and 45 minutes away from each other. Coming from a very religious family being GAY was NEVER an option. I never expected it to go further than a, “hey” but Dee responded to me. By this time I was absolutely freaking out because a female as gorgeous as her never responds to an ordinary girl like me. I wasn’t self-conscious or anything, but I was very expectant of rejection.
Anyway, fast forward to December of 2012, Dee and I had grown very close and honestly knew a lot about each other. She had became like my best friend and I couldn’t go a day without talking to her. Again, at the time we were only friends and had talks time and time again about getting together, but I never thought it would go that far.
As day by day past, we fell deeper and deeper in love with each other and finally on January 24, 2013 we made it official and got together. After 8 long months of falling out, arguing, falling completely in love and disagreeing we finally decided we wanted to be together. Now, we were only 17 years old and in a hush-hush relationship I never expected to see her, but it happened!!
In February, which I don’t remember the exact date, but it was the weekend before Valentine’s Day because I remember coming right back the next weekend to be with her on Valentine’s Day. Our first date was very crazy considering the fact that we was absolutely scared and shy, and I had the extreme case of the butterflies. Dee, the shy one did very well with hiding her shyness and immediately opened up. I was so scared, I mean hey, it was my first time actually dating a girl. We were teenagers at the time and didn’t have big funds so our very first date was simple at Zaxby’s.
Since, Dee and I first started talking in 2012 she had always wanted to join the military. I was over protective and only looked at the bad things and never wanted her to join because of it. Throughout 2013 I went through a lot of family issues. I had gotten really close with Dee and her family and actually ended up living with them. I believe 2013 was one of the best and worse years of my life. Fast forward to 2014, things were starting to get back to normal with my family and I was able to go back home and get a job which ultimately lead to us getting our first home together.
On July 4, 2014, my wife proposed to me in the geekiest way but it was the cutest thing ever. She had gotten me a diamond ring from Kay Jewelers and I was the happiest girl on Earth. Time went on and we broke up. It was so horrible to the point where we both hated each other. I never thought we would get back together but as fate happened here we are. Though everything, 2015 has been our best year yet. I say that because despite everything that we have endured Dee and I both have realized that we’re stuck together like glue. There is no one else I would rather spend the rest of my life with. I’m so blessed and honored to go through life journeying with Dee.
Only July 14, 2015 we tied the knot and vowed to be here through thick and thin!
My advice to couples whether you’re part of the LGBT community or simply straight, I say stick together no matter what. How can you say that that other person is your soulmate, if you can’t even make it through the hard times? You have to be able to love each other unconditionally where you are willing to put your dreams aside to support theirs. I’m not saying lose yourself in someone. I’m simply saying if you’re not willing to sacrifice stuff of your own, then your not where you should be.
As our life fell together, I finally realized that a relationship is about helping your significant other follow his or her dreams. That’s when I finally decided to be more open minded about Dee joining the Military.
The process was quick and long at the same time, it took about 2 months for Dee to join the Army. The process was very frustrating, but it’s all worth it. As of now everything is surreal, I actually have no feelings towards the fact that my wife will be leaving me for 3 whole months in October for Basic Combat Training (BCT). I feel it will soon hit me once time goes on. All in all the Army is awesome I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I created my YouTube channel because I wanted to inspire others Lesbians in the Military that being yourself is okay. I wanted to share my stories and my life to everyone because everyday here is a movie. For a long time I was watching some of my favorite You-Tubers and I was like, “Hey, I can do that I can share my story, too!” I made it happen. I really enjoy making videos and plan on sharing as much of life as I can.
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Hi my name is Jadashia Johnson! I am the Creator of YouTube Channel – The Johnson’s, where you can laugh with me, find out information on being an army wife & the process, even things concerning your health.
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