How to Create a Blog to cure Deployments Blues

Writing can be used to combat stress or anxiety and even alleviate depression when your spouse is deployed. I have been doing some research and found insightful facts about writing. When you write you are able to release your emotion, express yourself, and you are able to be creative all at once.  At the beginning of your spouse’s deployment you may feel out of sorts. Creating a blog then writing blog posts are promising tasks that can help you think clearer, get rid of all the noise in your head, and help you stop obsessing.

“The act of writing forces you to think about the events that happened during the course of the day. You are no longer involved in the situations which made you angry or sad, and you can clarify what precipitated these events on paper.”

Exploring what blogging has to offer can lead you to positive habits.  One habit would be setting aside quite time to write while slowing down and tuning out technology for a bit. Another habit that you could develop is a talent for researching new topics leading you to learn new thing. No matter where blogging leads you, writing has an artful array of structure helpful for worrying minds. Blog posts always have a story to be told, a sentence to finish and a place for your thoughts. Blogging can give you and outlet to express who you are and it can be done for free.

During your spouse’s deployment there are varying degrees of emotions you will experience as a military wife. What better way to embrace this change in your relationship and life than to document it or write about subjects that make you happy? In this post will give you break down of blogging and how to start your own blog.

Why Blog?

“Blogging requires time, devotion, commitment, and discipline. And just to be clear, those are all good things to embrace – they will help you get the most out of your days and life.”

Think of times when you could write through out your day. How can you add writing into your day? Where can you fit writing into your life now? Can you wake up earlier to write? Can you take 15 or 30 minutes from an activity you do to write? Once you figure out times to write begin thinking about your life as a whole.

Balancing Family, Home & Work

I believe when you are a writer at heart you quench for writing never ceases to end, that’s why you keep writing. Blogging is an extended online way to express your feelings, to hear your own voice and document your thoughts through time. However, depending on your family situation you might find it difficult to write a blog, but it can be done. The house always needs cleaning, laundry doing, beds to be made, meals to be cooked; life happens and one should not neglect family responsibilities. I work full time and commute almost 2 ½ hours to work a day, but I am figuring out how to blog and write.  You have to find the balance in your life to determine when and where you can write.

Key things to decide on before you blog


Decide how much you want to blog whether it’s daily or weekly.  I do better weekly right now that I am starting off. I have a goal in mind to blog posts every few days. If you think about if you just do one blog post a week that’s 52 blogs a year! Can you imagine if you decided to more than 1 blog a week? It’s exhilarating to ponder about the future and what you hope to accomplish. Determine what you want to accomplish up front.


Writing blog entries or posts can be a very satisfying and stimulating endeavor but it takes effort. Roman wasn’t built in a day. It will take time to grow your readerships and audiences but don’t get discouraged there are plenty of resources available to you online.

Where do you start?

Select your Niche

I am blogging for Military Spouses in my free time.  My wife is an Army Veteran and I decided I wanted to start a blog. I wanted to share my experiences, tips and resources for others. I decided to narrow my niche to Lesbians in the Military and decided on the name Lesbian Army Wife.

“ defines a niche as, a distinct segment of a market. Therefore, defining your writing niche means choosing which corner of the writing sky you would like to occupy. Moreover, your niche should be distinct and suitable to you.”

I want to bring awareness and acceptance for LGBTQ Military Spouses. I want to share with everyone. I am always starting new projects and love writing.  Once I began researching my niche I noticed there was much in the way of Military LGBT Blogs. I did come across a few very awesome LGBT Military Spouse support websites.

Decide on a niche or theme to write to help your blog posts go viral. A niche isn’t always necessary for a blog, but if you are writing about a specific topic or themes of ideas having a niche can help you reach your target readers or audience. Examples of niches for military spouses can include topics like the “Milso Experience” or the “Milspouse Mother” or the “Free Milspouse” and the list can go on and on. Every Milspouse connects differently when it comes to who they are and how they became a Milspouse; some stories are similar and some stories are just beginning to unfold. When it comes down to it, whatever topic you relate to or most passion about you can blog about it like gardening, food,  how to save money or do it yourself projects.

I think the most vital aspect to consider when writing a blog or is to read anything you can get your hands on. Reading or viewing other blogs can inspire and assist you in creating a layout or format for your blogging style. By exposing yourself to numerous forms of media you can familiarize yourself with relevant or current topics floating around. Also, exposure can bring a great amount of fluidity to your writing.

Start with a free blog

Decide on a name for your blog and check out this comparison chart of blogging platforms to create your free blog.


Ideas & Organization

Come up with ideas that interest you.  Come up with catchy  blog titles and subtitles that are easy and fun when searching to attract a wide audience range. Pinpoint and research what you will blog about.

Content Idea Generator – Helpful little tool I found when I was Googling to get those ideas flowing for you! Try it out.


Blog Title Generator – This website can give you some ideas for different blog titles.



Blog Title Analyzer – Figure out how to attract more readers with your blog title.



Think about your writing habits now. What type of writer are you?  Remember writing is all about well thought out sentences; there are rules, sentences structures, verbs nouns and adverbs.

blog prewrite

Pre-writing can and will be your best friend. I have been blogging for a few months and I just kind of jumped in and writing with no plan. As I have kept going and blog more and more I realized I do need plan.

I started using this simple layout to help me plan what I want to write in each blog. Basically, it’s just like when you went to school and had to write an essay same rules apply. I feel by planning out what I want to write first help me out. I still believe that in the case but I am slowly realizing having a plan for my writing helps me focus and accomplish more without getting writers block. You just got have to write. You have to feel the writing in your soul so it hits your reader in the heart.

Blogging Tools

Right now, I’m about to go to sleep but I started thinking of ideas and things I wanted to write so I’m using my Scribble App on my android phone while I’m dictating my ideas with my Google microphone translator.

I can quickly document what I’m thinking without distraction. I have the freedom of writing without worrying about spelling or the way a sentence is structured. I will be able to come back to this safe text at a later time and edited. My suggestion is to always use technology when available and when it is beneficial for your writing.

There will be times when writing is best done on the computer, but sometimes it’s nice to have a little help with the use of an app right before bed. It’s also peace of mind and nice to know what you want to write about the next day. Thus breaking any chances of writer’s block that might come along when formulating a new post or finishing an old one. All I have to do tomorrow is a little bit of copying and pasting and editing and press to a new blog post.

Google to the Rescue

I have turned to Google to help with my blogging. I really love Google because I can do everything I want using only Google and it’s free. All you have to do is create an email, which you will probably want to do for your new blog anyways.


Once you have created a Google Email for your blog you have instant access to Google Drive, Google Keep, Google Documents, Google Photos and a Google Calendar. Google Drive is a storage location for all files. Google Keep is a digital sticky note where you can  jot down ideas for your blog on the go and edit later. Google Documents is so great if you don’t have Microsoft on your computer or you can format and edit blog posts fast on any computer.

Writing a Blog

Here is an awesome diagram I found to help you get an idea of how to layout the perfect blog post.

blog post

Check out this awesome “Before Publishing Checklist



The sky is the limit

Social Media is a must to get your blog out into the blog-o-sphere so people know you exist.

Now get to writing and zap your Deployment Blues. Good luck!

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Have you created a blog? Share your story in the comments!

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I want to bring awareness and acceptance for LGBTQ in our communities all across the world. What better way than by blogging? I want to share with everyone.

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