Hurry up and Wait and What it Really Means

Hurry up and Wait and What it Really Means

In the late 1940’s the Military began using “hurry and wait” a saying  that officially became one of many unofficial motto’s still practiced today. What does hurry up and wait really mean? The idea of hurry up and wait is to be ready on time without compliant or worry and be ready to what for the next thing. However, like that country song from Alabama goes “I rush and rush until life’s no fun.” Military personnel and spouses alike can be rushing and rushing until life is no fun because they are caught between being there or here and doing this or that. I think you have to find a balance between waiting and being ready especially when your spouse is in the military.

“We need to chill out and trust that everything will work out how it is supposed to. Freaking out about it won’t make it come any faster and will only stress your family out.”

My wife is hurrying up and waiting to reenlist in the military and I am excited and happy for her to start again. I have noticed ever since I met my wife she always love the Army. I could tell over time civilian life was tough for her. After a few years of marriage and taking a good hard look at what we both want out of life reenlisting in the military is the best choice for our family.

However, it’s a process – your spouse waits to meet with a recruiter, your spouse finally sees the recruiter, your spouse talks to the recruiter, then your spouse’s goes back later, your spouse goes home fills out paper work, and then goes back again. Sometimes the holidays or a sick day or a leave come in between being able to sign up and reenlist in the military as I am finding out. My wife is hurrying up to wait.

This whole hurry up and wait game can sometimes be frustrating. It seems like nothing is ever really set in stone. Not to mention when your spouse begins talking to the recruiter midway to the end where you can enlist, it can feel like you are playing telephone and nothing that was said at first is what actually happens at the end. Which is okay because based on different thing rank, skills, education, and open positions your spouses is narrowed down. My wife has helped to  understand there is a process in the military and each process as many different outcomes.

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My advice is be flexible, patient and understanding.  Your spouse is in the same situation you are in when it comes to hurrying up and waiting. I have create a quick list to help and remind you of what to when the whole “hurry and wait” gets overwhelming.

  1. Have plans instead of expectations – Plan for the future rather than have a strong believe that something will happen. Plans help you readjust when things don’t go as planned. Expectations can lead you to disappoint and up set because your beliefs can be crush when things don’t happen the way you want.
  2. Be ready for various outcomes – Next once you have your plan set plan some more for different  scenarios that could happen. This builds flexible into your thinking and without creating disappointment. Also, thinking about different outcomes allows you to openly your mind to new possibilities rather than only hoping for one outcome that might not happen.
  3. Work on what you can control – Focus on your daily life and routines like work, school, or taking care of yourself and home instead of worrying about the unknown. No matter what there will always be times you  are waiting for the next thing. It better to live in the now and do better where you can.

Whether your hurrying up and waiting for your spouse to join the military, come back from training or a deployment, waiting for a promotion, to move to the next city, or to raise your child you are always hurrying up to wait. It’s just what it is. Hurry up and wait! Now that your spouse in the military get used to this type of philosophy.

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National Military Appreciation Month: Everything you Need to Know

National Military Appreciation Month in May was designated by Congress to give Americans time to reflected back on and show our thanks  for those who serve, served or gave their lives for this great country we call the United States of American. I am very proud of my wife who served in the Army for 5 years. She continues to serve in the State Military of California alongside the National Guard.

Looking back on military history allows new generation’s time to learn about what happened and time to prepare for the future. Our world is every changing and getting smaller and smaller by the year. It is up to us to remember our history, to remember our victories as well as our failures to keep America great and free.

National Military Appreciation Month: May 2017 Days to keep in mind

Loyalty Day May 1st, 2017

“We humbly thank our brave service members and veterans who have worn our Nation’s uniform ‑‑ from the American Revolution to the present day.  Their unwavering loyalty and fidelity has made the world a safer, more free, and more just place.” – President Donald J. Trump

Public Service Recognition Week: May 7 – May 13, 2017

Public Service Recognition Week (PSRW) is organized annually by the Public Employees Roundtable (PER)and its member organizations to honor the men and women who serve our nation as federal, state, county and local government employees.

VE Day May 8th, 2017

Victory in Europe Day, generally known as V-E Day, VE Day or simply V Day was the public holiday celebrated on 8 May 1945 to mark the formal acceptance by the Allies of World War II of Nazi Germany‘s unconditional surrender of its armed forces.[3] It thus marked the end of World War II in Europe.

Military Spouse Appreciation Day May 12th,2017

Military Spouse Day or Military Spouse Appreciation Day is celebrated on the Friday before Mother’s Day in the United States. Many United States citizens take this day to acknowledge the significant contributions, support, and sacrifices of spouses of their Armed Forces. Each year, the US President normally commemorates this day with a ceremonial speech and proclamation.

Armed Forces Day  May 20th, 2017

President Harry S. Truman led the effort to establish a single holiday for citizens to come together and thank our military members for their patriotic service in support of our country. The single day celebration stemmed from the unification of the Armed Forces under the Department of Defense.

Memorial Day  May 29th, 2017

Memorial Day is a federal holiday in the United States for remembering the people who died while serving in the country’s armed forces. The holiday, which is currently observed every year on the last Monday of May, originated as Decoration Day after the American Civil War in 1868, when the Grand Army of the Republic, an organization of Union veterans founded in Decatur, Illinois, established it as a time for the nation to decorate the graves of the Union war dead with flowers

Ways you can participate in National Military Appreciation Month

There are many ways you can participate in National Military Appreciation Month. Here are 10 ways to support our military and veterans:

  1. Display the American Flag on your home or business.
  2. Engage in social media to highlight military and veterans.
  3. Send a care package to a soldier through USO.
  4. Donate to “The Wounded Warrior Project” and support the thousands of wounded warriors and their families.
  5. Encourage elected officials at all levels to recognize our military and veterans.
  6. As a business, when offering military discounts, include all who serve and have served or hire a veteran.
  7. Like National Military Appreciation Month (NMAM) on Facebook.
  8. When you see a person in military uniform, shake their hand and thank them for their service.
  9. Volunteer or visit your local VA Hospital to honor veterans from past conflicts.
  10. May is also American Military History Month learn something new.

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The Best Free Printables Every Milspouse Needs to keep Organized

Who doesn’t love something for free? Life is tough as it is. I thought it would be useful if I created a blog post about where to find free printable to help you get organized. As a milspouse you are always trying to keep it in line on the home front. Support is welcomed and I wanted to give you that support in the form of free printables.

What is a printable? A printable is digital content that you can use by downloading and printing out from your computer. Why do some bloggers offer free printable while others don’t? I believe it really depends on why the blogger created the printable whether to make money or help their reader with something. Remember, when a blogger does decide to offer a printable for free they usually are trying to builder their email listing which is pretty cool. You get a printable for free and you also get a free newsletter with awesome content sent to your inbox.

Check out this awesome list of Printables!

Free Printable- No Requirements

 

Free Printable – Social Media Like or Share

Free Printable – Email Required

 

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*Here are some paid printables you might be interested in as well. I didn’t want you to miss anything!

 

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10 Military Spouse Secrets that will make you Ready for Anything

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Everyone loves a good secret because who doesn’t want to know the what’s going on? I know that I am always looking for good advice on life, love and everything in between. Being a military spouse means there will be times you need advice or need a secret or two to help you on your way. I want to share some secrets with you. Most often we go about our lives and forget what matters. We may even forget there is a path  we can take with the least resistance.

5 Secrets for getting along with your spouse

Instead of “being flexible,” be adaptable 

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Being flexible means to endure situation without breaking so there could be a chance you break. However, when you are adaptable you learn a new way of dealing with hard situation in a new way without chancing a break. Maybe instead of saying to your spouse “Call me whenever you can” say “Make it a point to communicate with me.”

When it comes to being a spouse especially being a military spouse being able to be adjust to things, people or places is a must. Whether your spouse is on a training or mission and deployed your spouse is under a tremendous amount of pressure on a daily basis. Try to put yourself in their shoes. Realize that something’s are a part of the job and not a reflection of your spouse.

 

Be willing to forgive

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Forgiveness in any relationship is a must. It can be hard to forgive or admit that you were wrong. Keep in mind, forgiveness helps you and your spouse to move on from the situation to a more balanced emotional state of mind. No one is perfect and forgiveness is even more important in a military relationship. Forgiveness is twofold first you are able to let go of negative feelings and second you are able to grow and learn within your relationship.

 

Be ready to communicate

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Communication expressing yourself through talking to your spouse, but also the way you talk to your spouse. I know I have been guilty of using a bitchy tone with my wife. It doesn’t help us connect or feel close to each other. Tone matters when you are speaking or expressing yourself to your spouse. Words and how you say them are powerful and so are emotions. Find the balance in how you communicate with your spouse.

 

Be understanding

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I believe being understanding means being able to know when your spouse is tired or happy or hangry. Understanding mean putting yourself in your spouses shoes. It also means realizing not everything your spouse says or does is personal. I think being able to be understanding gives you the edge to see the situation through your spouses eyes instead of just your own. Yes, at times it can be hard to see it their way but of course everyone has and opinion and different thoughts about things. Keep your heart open and listen to your spouse a little more.

 

Be kind

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There is a lot to be said about simply being kind to your spouse. Maybe they missed your call or your spouse hasn’t emailed or written back to you as quickly as you would like. When you do get a chance to talk with your spouse be kind. Its all about the approach you take to get the response you need.

Kindness is the act of being considerate of the other person’s feeling while being generous in the manner in which you interact. Being kind can go a long way when it comes to the interactions you have with your spouse and can help eliminated future arguments. You can be kind it just takes a second to practice.

When in a military relationship, you have to remember if you spouse comes home grumpy and doesn’t want to talk about work that day is okay. Recently, my wife came home and was frustrated about her rank in time and the promotion she was suppose to receive. however once her unit looked into her service everything worked out. If you are in a situation where you can seem to connect with your spouse give your spouse space, time and opportunities to talk on their own about what happened in their day.

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Be open to new things and people

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In military life might more often than you would chose to or switch jobs more frequency than you might like. Military life is full of surprises, opportunity and you learn how strong you are as a person. Its important to be positive in any new atmosphere you are in. Look at your cup as half full instead of half empty. There are gonna be time when you need someone other than your spouse or family to confide in.

Be open to new coworker or other spouses where ever you are stationed. Look for ways to connect with your community like participating in local charities or food drive or check out a FRG meeting.

 

Be prepared to ask if you don’t know something

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Military life is daunting, its okay to ask questions or talk to others if you are frustrated or upset or just plain happy. There will be times you need to confide in others like friends, acquaintances or co-workers about what’s going on in your life. Take a good look around and see what you need help with. The only dumb question is the one you don’t ask. I really love knowing everything. I also ask or research and try and find the answer.

 

Instead of “staying busy,” Be okay to be alone

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Remember its okay to be alone, but try to find ways to beat loneliness while your spouse serving their country. Let go of unattainable or unrealistic ideas of what it means to be alone. Take the time when your spouse is away to discover who you are, what you want out of life, and spend time with friends and family. Why not do all those things you have been meaning to do? And I don’t mean cleaning.

 

Instead of “bloom where your planted”, Be true to yourself

Be true to yourself

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Be who you are, do what you enjoy. Don’t lose sight of what make you happy and what makes you passionate. I love reading. (Harry Potter is awesome just saying) I love cutting hair and I love working. My family and friends are important to me and  I enjoy spending quality time with them. Being able to be your true self means not letting your circumstance cloud what makes you happy and makes you who you are.

 

Be healthy

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Focus on taking care of yourself because no one else will. Be healthy from the inside out. Learn to eat better, sleep well, stress less and find peace. Military life can throw you a bunch of curve balls and you need to be emotionally and physically fit to hand all the stresses that can come your way.  Exercise in whatever way make you feel good about yourself whether that is by doing yoga, running at the gym or just going out into nature and walking. Always find a way to see the good in all things.

 

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50 to the Point blog posts for any Milspouse who need Advice

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I have been blogging about being a Military Spouse for more than a year. I thought I would give a list of all my favorite blog posts in case you missed any. Sometimes you need a little nudge or perspective from another fellow military spouse.  The unique thing about my blog is I am a lesbian army wife.  I am blogging about my experiences and life. Its been over just a year since the United States Supreme Court ruled that states banning same-sex marriage was unconstitutional. Therefore, there is still so much uncharted territory for LGBT military spouses. I am here to help you fine resources, tips, and advice.

I feel it is important to share stories, connect, and relate with others. Maybe being a military spouse wasn’t what you a dreamed of or thought of, but you are living proof of how wonderful this life is and how grand the United States of America is. Your spouse is among the top 1% of brave military personnel who protect this great county. Sometimes having the military apart of your life can bring you amazing benefits and experience you might not have had; yet, can leave you questioning what your role is.

Here is the big list of blog posts to read when you need advice.

 

Best Blog Posts

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Why the Future of America Depends on your Vote in November

5 Easy Coping Ideas to get you through a Deployment

Breathtaking Photo Ideas for Lesbian Military Weddings

5 Commissary Website Resources That Will Save You More Money

How to Create a Blog to cure Deployments Blues

6 Quick Tips to Keep the Romance Alive

10 Super Easy ways to Stay Safe when you Live Alone

Making military Reintegration a more Peaceful Time

The Ultimate Savings Cheat Sheet for the Holidays

5 Ways to Ensure a Secure Online Experience

 

Undiscovered Posts

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10 Fantastic Milspouse Blogs for Newbies

5 Heartfelt ways to keep your love strong in a Military Marriage

5 Ways Military Wives Can Manage Stress

How to Add More Understanding to your Military Marriage

How to Make your Military dwelling into a Home

Moonlight your way to Romance with Super Easy Date Ideas

Lesbian Military Parenthood Part 3: Starting your Family – Adoption

3 Sure Fire Ways to make New Milspouse Connections Today

25 Simple Acts of Kindness for a Strong Marriage

Improve Your Fitness Regime Right Now

 

Most Useful Blog Posts

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Who is a Modern Military Spouse?

The Best Military Deployment Music Playlist Ever

8 Highly Awesome careers Milspouses should know about

Hurry up and Wait and What it Really Means

How to Be Happy and Stay Positive as a Military Spouse

Find out what Time Honored Military Gift your Spouse will Love

How to Live While your Spouse is Deployed

4 Resources for LGBT Military Families

The exciting Reason Milspouses can Love the New Years

Are you prepared for a natural disaster?

 

Favorite Blog Posts

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Lesbian Military Parenthood Part 1: Deciding to start your family

50 of the best Pinterest Pins for Military Spouses

Same-Sex Marriage Military Benefits you need to know about

5 More of the Most Blazing Milspouse Vloggers to catch up with

Adopt A Deployed Soldier – This is best you can do today

Army Strong : A Love Story

How to be an Ally for LGBT Military Families

10 Lesbian Military Themed E-Books to Read Any Time

Lesbian Military Parenthood

20 Free Android Apps Every Milspouse Needs

 

Popular Posts

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7 Blunders to Avoid as a New Milspouse

Lesbian Military Parenthood Part 2: Starting your Family – In Vitro Fertilization

51 Tips Every New Military Wife Should Know

6 Harsh Realities of being a Military Spouse and How to Embrace it

Stunning Lesbian Military Engagement Photo Ideas

I’m a Lesbian and my wife is in the Military. Now what?

25 of the Best Military Spouse Twitter Feeds to Follow

15 of the best Military Spouse Websites you need to know about

This is the One Ultimate Quick Fix for Overcoming Loneliness

5 of the Most Blazing Milspouse Vloggers to catch up with

 

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Why The Future of America Depends on your Vote in November

Why The Future of America Depends on your Vote in November

We are living in exciting time in America right now with the presidential election just around the corner. I don’t think I have ever been so immensely interested in a presidential election in my life. I think with all the controversy surrounding each candidate the media can’t get enough and neither can the American people. I do come to you today talking about politics. I am not going to give you reasons why you should vote for this candidate or that candidate. You vote for the candidate you feel more connected to and who can make the changes you want to see in your life.

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I do know who I am voting for. I hate arguing and I am that type of person that is like, “can’t we all get along?” I have grown up to believe everyone has different ideas and they are just as important as my ideas even if we agree. That’s why in this post I am not endorsing any candidate. I am just urging you to vote, to cast your ballot, to raise your voice. Why? Because you can. There are countries around the world where people today in 2016 cannot decide their fate because of  the type of government runs their county. Even if you look back on America there were points in our history where minorities and even women were allowed to vote.

I encourage you to vote. That is the message I want to share with you today.

Then I began to think, why should voting matter to military spouses? Voting matters because our spouses in the military defend our right to vote every day. You have a freedom to choose a Presidential candidate that can change the course of your life and impact issues that matter to you.

Nobody will ever deprive the American people of the right to vote except the American people themselves and the only way they could do this is by not voting.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

Vote in this upcoming election because you can make a difference. I just like everyone in the United States has had front row seats to witness the ever evolving presidential primary from Facebook feeds to Twitter wars to various scandals from both opposing sides and the conflict of who is right for the Presidency. I am sitting back to see how all of this plays out but I will be there in November to cast my vote.

I say to you cast a vote because our brave military service members at home and aboard fight to defend our vote to right and all our rights.

To learn more about voting please check out this amazing website from  Military One Click

Military votes matter

 

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Stunning Lesbian Military Engagement Photo Ideas

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In life there are many wonderful milestones you experience like learning to drive a car, figuring out what career you want to pursue and of course falling into love. We usually go around hoping to find the perfect one to complete us. No all of us usually find that special person the first time around. However, once you finally find that special person, date, and decide you cant live without them comes your engagement. Thanks to the Supreme Ruling legalizing Same-Sex marriage in the US, LGBT Military Families can now plan their engagements or weddings without fear of reprimand or punishment. Check out these amazing lesbian military couples in their engagement photos.

 

Engagement Photos 

 

Love reminds you that nothing else matters. ~ Any Bushnell

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Cheyenne and Sabryna’s predeployment engagement shoot in downtown Colorado Springs, Colorado.

 

True love stories never have endings.  ~Richard Bach

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Belita Lorraine Rojas and Shyanne Miller’s engagement announcement.

 

Two souls, one heart.  ~French saying used on poesy rings

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Katie and Amber’s engagement session in Lancaster, Texas.

 

True love stories never have endings. ~ Richard Bach

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Melissa Jonesan Army Private, based at Fort Hood, Texas, and her fiance, Danielle Nelson.

Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.  ~Albert Einstein

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Charlotte and Lauren’s engagement in Sliver Springs, Florida.

My whole heart for my whole life. ~ French Saying

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Kristen & Rachel’s Engagement Session

 

We may have started as individuals, but now we are as one. ~ Bryon Pulsifer

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Katie & Bethany ❤️

 

Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
– Franklin P. Jones

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“Whatever you do… love those who love you.” – Voltaire

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Cindy + Jenna’s Hatfield Engagement

 

“To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.” – Bill Wilson

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She is my rock, my other half, best friend, solider, and now my fiancé!

 

Other Cute Lesbian Engagement Photo Ideas

 

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Blaire & Kayla?! Lower Greenville Engagement Photos

 

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1 + 1 = Love

 

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Lindsey and Jessie Lake Arrowhead Engagement

 

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Bri & Ronnie’s Long Beach  Engagement Photos

 

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Sam and Emily Beach Engagement Session Honeymoon Island

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