5 Things I Learned in my First Year as a Milspouse Blogger


Blogging is a creative process just as anything else is from painting to drawing. As a painter, artist, or blogger  you begin with a blank canvas or paper and fill it with your soul. How you are feeling in any given moment and what you want to share with the world. Every creative mind shares and expresses their art differently for me instead of stoking a paint brush or using a pencil to draw I craft my art while sitting, typing away, using words to take my audience on an adventure. I love creating a warm and welcoming place for my audience.


Recently, I have been thinking, reevaluating my blog and what I want to write about. I love writing. I love words. I love sharing my ideas and helping others. However, I do want to write broaden the subjects that I write about and share my experiences. I had been scowling at the internet and Pinterest for ideas on what to write about for the average 30 somethings.  Most often, I think I may get too caught up in my life. I probably don’t take enough time to capture what it is I’m thinking about.


2013 was a big year for me, I was able to publish my poetry book and it’s available on Amazon right now. I also got married and attempted my first go around with blogging. I started blogging about RV-ing in Southern California. It was one of my hair brained ideas – I wanted to live in an RV. I watched all those tiny house shows on TLC and I desperately wanted to downsize and save money. My wife followed me down this crazy road from living in a house to purchasing an RV. Of course it was amazing content and I wrote about it all. The problem was we couldn’t quality for a loan to get an RV. So after sharing my experience I stopped blogging about RV-ing because at the time there was no way we could purchase an RV.


Although time passed I still wanted to blog. My passion is writing and helping others. In 2015 my wife decided she would like to reenlist in the Army. Of course the wheels in my brain started turning. I decided I wanted to know everything about military life. I wanted to support my wife in her journey back into the Army. The only thing was I couldn’t find websites specifically aimed at lesbians in the military. I didn’t despair I just Googled my little heart and bought any book that interested my about being a military wife.


I was along for the ride as my wife continued the process of reenlisting in the Army. I wished there were more blogs or websites about lesbians in the military and their stories. I found a few wonderful websites, but not exactly what I wanted. Since I was between blogs I decided to create a blog and website to help share my story about being a lesbian army wife and what it was all about.


Blogging is a wonderful undertaking for those who want to share and create content for the world. I encourage you to blog or keep blogging if you feel like giving up. Blogging can a lot of research on your chosen topic. There are days you don’t want to write or wonder why you are writing or ask yourself does it matter what I have to say? Is anyone listening? I can guarantee you someone right now is benefiting from my experiences, why not yours? Remember, its about never giving up if you are behind. I really wish I could be 3 or 4 posts ahead of myself instead of 3 to 4 post behind, but that’s okay. That’s for another day and another blog post. I keep writing every day. I keep trying and I do what I love.

Blog your heart out!

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16 Exciting Lesbian Blogs to Supercharge Your Life

The blog-o-sphere has become dimensional, artistic, and visual. I love the art of writing using words to create the pictures of a story but we are now completely visually driven thanks to the internet, Facebook, twitter feeds, and of course blogs. Blogging is super fun when I actually take time to sit down and write. I know as a blog when I browse the internet randomly looking to read or learn about something I am draw toward dynamic content that is visual. I am always in awe of the photos bloggers chose and it coordinates with their blog posts. It seems in order to stay relevant, I find, bloggers must use images with their blog posts. Lets face it no one nowadays has an attention span longer than 2 minutes when it comes to social media content.

As a writer or blogger you have to snag the reader in the first few minutes, detail an inspiration story, list tons of tips or suggestion, be pretty, be funny, be brave – basically you have to be everything for your read. (I add sarcasm for free!) Then you have to create those wonderful visual stimulates that keep your reader engaged. Of course your graphics need to be spectacular and captivating. What can I say?  I really love blogging because you can say how you feel and even include some facts as to why you are right. I also love creating relevant motivating content that resonates with my reader and the world. Well enough engaging with you my reader. I wanted to create a blog post to keep you motivated and inspired. When it comes to fining great lesbian blogs I found its a little hard to come by. Here it is my list of 16 Exciting Blogs for Lesbians that will Super Charge your life.


About: “We like the macro and the micro, the international and the close-to-home. We take a queer sensibility to everything — ’cause something doesn’t have to be GAY to be, you know – gay. You won’t find any right-wing conservative viewpoints here, but we do try to feature a variety of perspectives, including the very radical and the very mainstream.”



About: Anything you wish to read about lesbian life from relationship advice, to dating tips, to who’s the next hottest lesbian celebrity you can sure fun it here.


About: “This is a blog to detail the life of Wegan. Who or what is Wegan I hear you ask? We are Whitney & Megan, a femme (aka ‘lipstick’) lesbian couple who endured four years of long distance between Hawaii & the UK. Follow & share on our journey, with our lives loved together and lived apart.”


About: Welcome to Black Lesbian Love Lab, where we exclusively celebrate BLACK LESBIANS and the women who love them!


About: “Hi, I’m Andrea Hewitt, a late life lesbian who came out in her mid-forties. This is the blog that I wish I had found when I was coming out a few years ago. There’s almost nothing out there about women coming out later in life, so I decided to write it myself and help others in the process. Hey, we’re here, we’re queer, and we’re fabulous & finally OUT!”


About:  “The Other Team is a website aimed at empowering lesbian and bisexual women through its snarky, gay-positive content. With a writing team full of awesome lesbians, The Other Team strives to be the #1 resource for queer women. Starting with a simple idea of helping lesbians around the world, The Other Team proudly boasts one of the largest lesbian communities on the internet with over 150,000 monthly readers, 116,000 Facebook fans, and 30,000 Twitter followers. Our philosophy is: If we can help at least one person who’s feeling lost and alone to love themselves for who they really are, then we will consider our efforts to be worthwhile.



About: “We are Sarah & Laura, a femme lesbian couple who’ve been together since March 2009. As a UK/USA couple we grew up across the Atlantic from each other but when we met in October 2008 it was hard to deny the chemistry! We love travelling, date nights, takeaways, dogs, and drink so much Diet Coke that we may actually be 20% DC at any given time.”


About: “Mombian is a lifestyle site for lesbian moms and other LGBTQ parents, offering a mix of parenting, politics, diversions, and resources for all our varied roles. Mombian provides news about LGBTQ families, parenting tips, reviews of books and media for parents and children, and political and legal news and commentary from the perspective of a lesbian mom.”

News & Media

About:The Fab Femme Mag is a popular media outlet that aims to create a unique space for feminine LGBTQ women from all walks of life. Our goal is to publish creative content that sheds light on stories told by feminine women in society.”

About: “Broadly is a website and digital video channel devoted to representing the multiplicity of women’s experiences. Through original reporting and documentary film, we provide a sustained focus on the issues that matter most to women. As one YouTube commenter succinctly put it: “So basicly [sic] vice but excluding anything of relevance that includes men.”


About: AfterEllen.com works the lesbian/bi pop culture beat with a fun, feminist perspective on film, television, music, books, and sports. We also cover  lifestyle issues like lesbian sex and dating, coming out, and our take on the current political climate as it affects our community. AE delivers new and exclusive celebrity interviews, film reviews, TV recaps, original video and more, and is a continually evolving website for women.


About: “Allwomenstalk.com is your daily scoop of fabulous! And whether you’re looking for tips on putting together the perfect outfit, or wondering which lipstick is right for your complexion, Allwomenstalk.com is the perfect place to find the answers! From tips on how you can safely lose a few pounds to the new hair trends of the season, you will find it all on 26 blogs dedicated to women’s beauty, style, health, matters of the heart and all other important things we women talk about.”



About: Founded in 2011 by Sonny Oram, Qwear is a style website that transcends social norms through fashion performance and gender expression. We speak with brands and press about queer fashion needs, including interviews with Isaac Mizrahi on the Huffington Post Live, Buzzfeed, and Fashionista.com. We also highlight up-and-coming brands that cater to underserved demographics. Our inspiration provides a space void of the strict beauty standards of mainstream media and works to celebrate all bodies, abilities, races, and identities. Qwear insists that queer bodies are beautiful by consistently displaying positive images that portray us the way we view ourselves.”


About:  “One day I realized that of all the style blogs I loved to read, none were written by girls-who-like-girls, let alone very many strong and diverse queer voices.  And so, way back in 2008, with a crummy little point-and-shoot camera, a handsome sidekick behind the lens, and great big wishes for a badass femme community, I stepped onto the internet’s ‘infinite scroll’ catwalk to be the change I wished to see in the world. ”



About: “Pridezillas celebrates pride, love and equality. We are proud to promote our gay-friendly wedding vendors who support marriage equality. Our website showcases some of the best wedding photographers, planners, ministers, venues, DJ’s and more; all of which are excited to work with same-sex couples. We provide the wedding industry the ability to voice their support for marriage equality. We believe all love is worth fighting for.”


About: 2brides2be is a wedding resource for the modern lesbian bride: The bride who exudes youth and style no matter what her age, who doesn’t see her same-sex wedding as unusual but sees it as extraordinary, and who believes that she can have it all; including a chic and romantic wedding and the support of her community. 2brides2be features the latest trends in wedding related content while putting our lesbian brides at the forefront of wedding planning.

Extra Blogs to Check out!!! ( I couldn’t help myself)

Updated: March 24, 2017

More awesome Lesbian Blogs to check out

*These blogs I noticed were last updated in 2016 but totally still worth checking out!

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10 More Lesbian Military Themed E-Books to Read Any Time


Reading is one of the best things your can do for yourself. There have been many studies done to prove mentally stimulated or reading can slow can slow the progress of Alzheimer’s and Dementia. Not to mention reading can reduce stress, help bring a sense of tranquility to your life all while expanding your vocabulary. I wanted to give you a fresh new list of Lesbian Military Themed books. Its been a couple of years since I created a new blog post list for you to enjoy.


Check out my original blog post 10 Lesbian Military Themed E-Books to Read Any Time for more great books to dive into. I really love Amazon you can basically find anything you want have it shipped to your door or download a game or E-book for your the Kindle or App. I am sure my list of Lesbian Military Themed books will capture your attention, share an adventure or romance, all while you are cozy at home. Remember reading makes you smarter. Get to reading!


1. Dear Taylor (Letters to War) (Volume 1)


Synopsis: Taylor Phillips was working as a barista in NYC the day the twin towers came crashing down. Seeing her city in shambles, coated in ash, and American lives lost, she enlisted to fight the War on Terror. Daniella Melo, a Rhode Island American History teacher, challenges her class to write letters to soldiers fighting overseas. With one name left and a student short, Daniella takes it upon herself to write letters to Private Taylor Phillips stationed in Afghanistan. Over the next two years, the women exchange letters, sharing stories of their daily lives: Daniella trailing after her rambunctious daughter, Jackie, and dealing with overeager seniors planning prom while Taylor trudges through sand and dirt, driving her humvee in cold deserts. Their friendship continues to grow until it becomes something so much more than either women expect.


2. Marine: Outside the Wire


Synopsis: Lance Corporal Lara Grayson, or Gray to her brothers, has been stationed at a base camp in Jelawur, Afghanistan. She’s a dog handler, her partner, a German Shepard named Zabba, tracks down Taliban insurgent fighters and IEDs. They take daily patrols, and when engaged in a firefight, they’re usually short lived. But not everyone on either side will come out alive. Tabatha Steel, a war reporter has been captured by the Taliban, and when the patrol rescue her and her cameraman, tension builds. Their meeting is a game changer in more ways than one. Their mission is to ruin the enemy maneuvering from place to place and setting up IEDs and to catch them in the act, and to establish friendships with the locals.


3. When Love Wins


Synopsis: A story about two female Airman stationed at Nellis Air Force Base in Nevada, one, Tyler, is gay, the other, Shenin, is straight. They are members of the same security force at the base and are friends long before Shenin finds out that Tyler is gay. Shenin finds she is not surprised by this news, and even though she has always dated men, she finds herself inexplicably drawn to Tyler. The story takes place in a time when Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) was still firmly in place, and because of that gays in the military have to be very careful. Tyler is hyper-aware of any impropriety that could cause her to lose her hard won military career; she also finds that it becomes more important to her to protect Shenin from not only getting into trouble with the military, but from traveling a path that could lead to disaster for them both.


4. Ask, Tell


Synopsis: Where can you turn when you’re caught in a crossfire of war and passion?Captain Sabine Fleischer is a skilled and dedicated U.S. Army surgeon deployed to a combat hospital in Afghanistan. She is also one of the thousands of troops who are forced to serve in silence because of the military’s anti-gay policy of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT).” Usually driven and focused, Sabine finds that battles raging both inside and outside the perimeter walls are making it more and more difficult for her to deal with her emotions. Dealing with loss and mortality, lack of privacy, sleep deprivation, loneliness and the isolation forced on her by “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” are all taking their toll. Plus, her long-term relationship with a civilian back home is quickly becoming another casualty of war.

Colonel Rebecca Keane is an enigmatic career officer who runs the surgical unit like clockwork. Well liked and respected by those who work with and under her, she walks a fine line to preserve the military’s chain of command while connecting with those under her care and supervision. Sabine knows the Colonel is way off-limits, but can’t help fantasizing about her. Especially when she starts picking up unspoken cues—a stolen glance, a secret smile, an “accidental” brush of hands. Or is it just wishful thinking? After all, Rebecca’s wedding ring shines almost as brightly as her deep blue eyes…


5. Hero


Synopsis: Major Jackie Holmes is a career soldier with nearly twenty-one years of service under her. Returning home from Afghanistan injured makes her evaluate her life. After her husband’s strange behavior, she realizes the only people in her life she can count on to help with her recovery are her twins, her parents, and all the medical teams she finds herself surrounded with. Could a chance encounter with an old school friend turn her life around?

As a physiotherapist at a military rehabilitation center, Carrie Spencer treats all kinds of people and injuries. She just didn’t ever consider running into an old school friend, and end up treating her. In the midst of an abusive relationship, Carrie is struggling to decide how she needs to act to safeguard herself and her boys, Charlie and Richard. Jackie is her bright light in a dark place, and Carrie begins to rely on her friend more and more as she comes to terms with what she must do.

Everything comes to a head at a party held at Jackie’s house…the only question is—Will Carrie do the right thing and turn her back on her relationship, or will she follow her lover and suffer more of her abuse?

When a friendship turns to more and two hearts beat as one, is it possible for that bond to be torn apart?


6. The Sniper’s Kiss


Synopsis: It is 1944, and vast armies drive each other back and forth over blood-drenched Europe.  In the midst of it, two radically different women meet, one a Russian speaking American on a failed diplomatic mission and the other a Soviet sniper. The American, fleeing a sordid past worthy of Dostoyevsky, has murder in her heart but has injured no man. The other, a once-saintly believer, has killed a hundred of them for Stalin. Their politics are worlds apart, but a reckless drunken kiss has tied them together, through church and trench, incense and the smoke of battle. If they survive the war, can they survive the peace?


7. Saving Us: First Time Lesbian Romance Story, A Doctor Saves Her Soldier


Synopsis: Wendy Cleary is moving at a mad pace in order to forget. First as an ER doctor in a busy urban hospital then as a volunteer in a combat zone. Wendy is a lesbian who lost her wife and the last thing on her mind is finding love again in Afghanistan.

Lily Bailey is embarking on her second tour of duty in Afghanistan. As a medical transport specialist she will be helping move doctors and supplies where they’re needed. The last thing on her mind is romance because she hasn’t had luck with boyfriends in the past.
Two compassionate women collide and find what neither was expecting. Wendy and Lily find love in each other although the obstacles to their happiness are many. A friend’s death, a critical injury and a world that isn’t quite ready for their type of love, add up. Can these two fierce women prove that love really does conquer all?


8. Dead Shot


Synopsis: McKenzie is a soldier and her girlfriend, Katie, is a contractor with the United Nations peacekeeping force. McKenzie’s squad has named her Dead Shot for her uncanny ability with weapons. When her unit is ambushed, will her skills be enough?


9. Never Let Go


Synopsis: For Coast Guard Rescue Swimmer, Finley Morris, life is good. She loves her job, is well respected by her peers, and has been given an opportunity to take her career to the next level. The only thing missing is the love of her life, who walked out, taking their daughter with her, seven years earlier. When Finley gets a call from her ex, saying their teenage daughter is coming to spend the summer with her, she’s floored. While spending more time with her daughter, whom she doesn’t get to see often, and learning to be a full-time parent, Finley quickly realizes she has not, and will never, let go of what is important.


10. Second Chance


Synopsis: After an tragic attack on her convoy, Marine Corps Staff Sergeant, Darien Hollister, must learn to live without her sight. When an experimental procedure allows her to see again, opening up the possibility for her to go back to the career that is deeply ingrained in her, Darien is torn, knowing someone had to die in order for this to happen. She embarks on a journey to personally thank the donor’s family, but is too stunned to tell them the truth. Mixed emotions stir inside of her as she slowly gets to the know the people that feel like so much more than strangers to her. When the truth finally comes out, Darien walks away, taking the second chance that she’s been given to go back to the only life she’s ever known, but she’s not the only one with a second chance at life.


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Blogging: How to get rid of Writer’s Block the easy Way


I have run into trouble a time or two with my blog when it comes to figuring out what to write about. love blogging and writing. I have tons to say about life, love, and everything else. But doesn’t everyone have a story they want to tell? I have a knack, will you say, a gift of story telling I can’t keep to myself. So, here I am blogging away. I like every great writer and blogger on the planet has had be discouraged from time to time and even encountered writers blog.

Of course, these days, I can easily I turned to Pinterest for inspiration when my brain doesn’t want to work.

Recently, I was looking for pins on advice and information to get be blogging like never before. I came across this pin about blogging and one of the first sentences was about writing everyday and coming up with a schedule for when you write the best. I thought to myself yeah let me just write everyday at the same time when life is happening all around me. I work, my house needs cleaning, I need to spend time cultivating my relationship with my wife, family engagements and events come up, oh and I need to get back into exercising routinely.

I could just on and on about all the other things I need to do.

There are probably a million more things I could add to my list of things to do or don’t forget to do. However, a few hours after I let the bloggers words fester and take root. I realized I do have to write everyday. I have to try because I love blogging not to try. Here I am writing and writing and it feels great. I know in my soul I am content because I’m writing and trying to help other bloggers along the way.

If you need and or ideas or anything for your blog’s my suggestion is just to write.

I think why people get writer’s block it’s because you forget to write. As a writer forget you have a story to tell sometimes so instead of worrying about writing just write. It’s hard but force yourself to write but here I am writing and creating new  content and writing blog posts after blog post because I force myself to write and I’m actually surprised it worked.

Don’t give up and just try.

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Do you want to share your Journey as a Military Spouse?


Do you have a unique Military story you want to share? Here is your chance, email me at lesbianarmywife@gmail.com and we can make this happen.

Share with the world your journey!

You are the author of your life and I would love to help you share it with the world. Be creative, bold and have fun!

Post Submission Rules:

  • Post must be between 500-1200 words
  • Post must include 1-4 photos
  • Post cannot break any copyright laws
  • Post must include a bio and head-shot
  • Post must be ready for publication…. make sure to edit and proof read
  • Post must be written exclusively for OMG Lesbian Army Wife and cannot have been published anywhere else online.

Blog post will be posted within 24-72 hours depending on if post meet all requirements. Remember to be genuine and be who you are.

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Who is a Modern Military Spouse?

Today is “National Spouses Day” which is observed annually on January 26th.  “Dedicated to recognizing spouses everywhere, this day reminds us to take time for our spouse.”  Do you take time to appreciate and love your spouse? I would say most married military spouses do. Recognizing our spouses is a wonderful way to show just how much we care about them. I got to thinking about who are modern military spouses?

As time has passed military spouses have had to become more adaptable to and ever changing world. Military spouses today can be female or male, work inside or outside of the home and they can be straight or gay, there are no limits that define who a military spouse is. Military spouses give so much to their families just as their spouses do for our country.

Many younger families now move back to their hometowns during deployments, and spouses who stay near the military installation become more independent, adding more volunteer hours off the installation and finding work to keep themselves busy and the family more financially stable.” –  Laura Dempsey 

Modern military spouses can be career minded parents, stay at home parents who are entrepreneurs, or even go back to school or finish their degree. Whatever type of military spouse you are; you are the new generation.

I am a modern military spouse. You are a modern military spouse.

We are all modern military spouses because we live in the here and now. We causally check out smartphones while waiting in line at the commissary. We research any question about military life on the internet with a simple Google search. We steam our favorite movies on Netflix to bide the time or to feel comforted when our spouses maybe gone. We use webcams to video chat with our friends and family to stay in touch when we live far away. We stay connected and meet new military spouses online. We are modern military spouses because we realize our well-being and careers are as important as our spouses’ well-being and career. We are modern military spouses because  we want to contribute to our family.

Why are you a modern military spouse?

I am a modern military spouse because I am gay and married to my best friend and wife who fought for this great land and who is in the process of reenlisting. I am a modern military spouse because I want to spread positive vibes and I want to support other spouses who need a shoulder to lean on. I am a modern military spouse because I have my own life, I have my own hope and dreams and I have my own voice. I am a modern military spouse because I use my website and my blog to share with others.

I am proud to announce that I am part of the affiliate team for the Modern Military Spouse E-Book. This wonderful guide for modern military spouses and significant others  what you need, if you are new or if you need a few reminders.

“It’s about time we got a guide for military spouses that offers a fresh multi-dimensional perspective of what it means to be a military spouse today.” – From NexGen Blog post – I Know You’re Going to Be a Great Military Spouse by Adrianna Domingos-Lupher

We are all modern military spouses now days with apps and blogs, online forums and websites right at our finger tips.


Take this chance and get your e-book today. Its easy just click the above link and you will be taken to the website! That’s all you have to do. Get the last up to date information from modern military spouses just like you. I just got my copy today.

Have you got your copy of the Modern Military Spouse yet? What are you thoughts on the e-book? Share your comments!

Take a look at the 2015 Top Round up of Missed Blog Posts

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2015 is coming to an end quickly in a few days.  This year has been exciting and fulfilling as I have embarked on this blogging journey. I wanted to give you an immediate list of useful blog post you might have missed this year.

  1. 25 Simple Acts of Kindness for a Strong Marriage
  2. 20 Free Android Apps Every Milspouse Need
  3. 6 Quick Tips to Keep the Romance Alive
  4. 5 Heartfelt ways to keep your love strong in a Military Marriage
  5. 5 Easy Coping Ideas to get you through a Deployment
  6. 10 Lesbian Military Themed E-Books to Read Any Time
  7. 15 of the best Military Spouse Websites you need to know about
  8. Lesbian Military Parenthood Part 1: Deciding to start your family
  9. Moonlight your way to Romance with Super Easy Date Ideas
  10. 5 Ways to Ensure a Secure Online Experience
  11. Find out what Time Honored Military Gift your Spouse will Love
  12. 5 Ways Military Wives Can Manage Stress


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Happy Holiday! See you in the new year!

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