I personally love this time of the year when all the fall and winter holidays are upon us. Over the summer, I recently moved from a house to an apartment to be closer to my wife base. I don’t really have as much space as I use to in the house. As I moved, I had to get rid of many of my outside holiday decorations. Of course I still have like two boxes of Christmas decorations! This season I kind of feel out of place and don’t exactly know how I will celebrate the holidays.
I have traveled across many different Military Spouse Blogs to bring you this awesome listing of advice about the holidays. I can’t believe the holiday season is upon us already. This is a great time of the year to make memories. Sometimes it can be difficult if you recently just PCS’s somewhere new or if you spouse is deployed or if you have no idea where to start or if you really don’t care about the holidays. I wanted to bring you a special holiday blog listing no matter your circumstance.
Important Things to Keep In Mind during the Holiday Season:
Fall is here today. It’s September 22, 2017 its officially fall! Now you can start creating those crafty fall care packages. If you spouse significant other is deployed they will probably be miss all the comforters of home, especially during fall when football is getting back into full swing, the weather is cooling off and all the fun holidays are coming up. I am excited for fall and hope you are inspired.
Send a care package to your spouse and give them a taste of home even if they are far from home.
Also, this is a great time of the year to reach out to other solider who might not have a family or not support from home. There are wonderful out reach groups like Operation Gratitude or Homefront Hugs USA where you can volunteer to assemble care packages. You can also donate items to help create care packages to our troops. Consider participating in letter writing to deployed troops, veterans or wounded warriors.
The little reminders of home can lift your soldiers spirits.
Check this fabulous fall list of care packages to get your creative side flowing. Also, at the bottom see some suggestions to send your spouse or significant other during fall.
1. I’m still falling for you after all this time
2. Fall Is Here
3. Football is here
4. It’s Fall Y’all get a little country
5. ‘Owl’ miss you!
6. Happy Fall yummy snacks
7. Pumpkin Spice & Everything Nice that’s what Fall is made of
8. I’m Nuts about you
9. September – Happy Fall Baby
10. ‘Owl’ love you
11. I’d fall for you every time
12. I miss you! Happy Fall!
13. I hunted down everything that makes me think of you
14. Can’t wait to fall back in you arms
Fall Themed items for Care Packages:
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What fall theme care packages have you created? Leave a comment.
This year’s theme is: Disasters Don’t Plan Ahead. You CAN!
First things first, do you have an emergency plan for your family? If you do not already have a plan make Your Emergency Plan today.
Here is an Emergency Plan I recommend if you don’t have a plan yet:
As a semi-urban survivalist deep down I always want to be prepare for any situation that might arise. I feel like if you are prepared you are less likely to panic. I also think in any disastrous situation if you have a basic idea of what to do you can help your family and others in your area.
I live in California and recently we had a huge rain storm a few weeks ago and it was chaos. No one can drive in the rain on Southern California freeways. During this huge rain storm I didn’t even go to work one because there were 15 freeway Sig Alerts due to the of the rain.
I also couldn’t even buy dog food because the Target I usually use was flooded as well. Just because you might not have experienced a flood first hand doesn’t mean you want face one in the future.
Here are some things you should know flooding:
“Anywhere it rains, it can flood. A flood is a general and temporary condition where two or more acres of normally dry land or two or more properties are inundated by water or mudflow.”
During A Flood
Evacuate to higher ground if you can, if not go to the highest floor in your house like the attic.
Don’t attempt to walk or drive through flowing streams as you might get swept away.
Listen to news reports on the radio and stay informed on any updates regarding weather changes.
After a Flood
Return home when the flood water has receded and the authorities say its safe for you to go home.
Take pictures of your house flood damage and file a claim with your insurance.
Remove all wet items from your house to prevent mold growth.
Fires are a common occurrence in Southern California just this year alone the has been fires. California even has its own website Cal Fire that lists all fires that happen through out the year and how many aces were burned and containment percentages of each fire. Check out the GeoMAC Wildfire Map which lists all the current fires actively burning in the United States.
Here are some things you should know about Wildfire:
During a Wildfire
Know what your fire danger is based on where you life.
Remove any flammable material like wood or brush at lest 30 feet away from your house. Also,
Listen to news reports on the television, radio or the internet.
Be prepared to evacuate if authorities order it. Make sure to load up any valuables or supplies before hand.
Call 911 if you see a fire.
After a Wildfire
Return home after it is safe to and the fire is contained.
Keep gutters and roof free of debris.
Restock or build a survival kit for the next possible disaster.
If your house was damaged in the fire take pictures for insurance purposes.
“Hurricanes are strong storms that can be life-threatening as well as cause serious property-threatening hazards such as flooding, storm surge, high winds and tornadoes.”
Here are some things you should know about Hurricanes:
Before a Hurricane
Know the difference between a Hurricane Watch and a Hurricane Warning.
Board up windows and secure outdoor objects or furniture.
Make sure you have enough food and water for each family member.
Leave low lying flood areas if possible and seek shelter.
During a Hurricane
Pay attention to weather reports and get updates.
Let family members know where you are staying.
Stay away from windows and remain indoors to avoid winds and rain.
Evacuate if you the authorities issue an evacuation.
After a Hurricane
Return home after it is safe to and avoid any downed power lines or debris in your neighborhood.
Listen to news reports for you area to stay informed on any changes.
Restock or build a survival kit for the next possible disaster.
If your house was damaged in a hurricane take pictures for insurance purposes.
Anyone who has electric in their homes has experienced at least one power outage in their life. I think its always a good reminder to know what to do when you have no power. We live in such a digital world I always try to be prepared with books for entertainment because after you use all your charge on your phone you won’t be able to charge your phone.
Here are some things you should know about Power Outages:
During a Power Outage
Keep your fridge and freeze closed to keep food cold.
Use flashlights for light source to see instead of candles to prevent a fire.
Depending on your climate if its hot during a power outage stay cool by staying inside or seeking a cooling shelter in your area if possible. If you are live in a colder climate stay warm during a power outage by putting on extra clothes and using blankets.
After a Power Outage
Throw away any spoil foods.
Restock or build a survival kit for the next possible disaster.
“America’s PrepareAthon! is a grassroots campaign for action to increase community preparedness and resilience. Join others around the country to practice your preparedness!”
In the late 1940’s the Military began using “hurry and wait” a saying that officially became one of many unofficial motto’s still practiced today. What does hurry up and wait really mean? The idea of hurry up and wait is to be ready on time without compliant or worry and be ready to what for the next thing. However, like that country song from Alabama goes “I rush and rush until life’s no fun.” Military personnel and spouses alike can be rushing and rushing until life is no fun because they are caught between being there or here and doing this or that. I think you have to find a balance between waiting and being ready especially when your spouse is in the military.
My wife is hurrying up and waiting to reenlist in the military and I am excited and happy for her to start again. I have noticed ever since I met my wife she always love the Army. I could tell over time civilian life was tough for her. After a few years of marriage and taking a good hard look at what we both want out of life reenlisting in the military is the best choice for our family.
However, it’s a process – your spouse waits to meet with a recruiter, your spouse finally sees the recruiter, your spouse talks to the recruiter, then your spouse’s goes back later, your spouse goes home fills out paper work, and then goes back again. Sometimes the holidays or a sick day or a leave come in between being able to sign up and reenlist in the military as I am finding out. My wife is hurrying up to wait.
This whole hurry up and wait game can sometimes be frustrating. It seems like nothing is ever really set in stone. Not to mention when your spouse begins talking to the recruiter midway to the end where you can enlist, it can feel like you are playing telephone and nothing that was said at first is what actually happens at the end. Which is okay because based on different thing rank, skills, education, and open positions your spouses is narrowed down. My wife has helped to understand there is a process in the military and each process as many different outcomes.
My advice is be flexible, patient and understanding. Your spouse is in the same situation you are in when it comes to hurrying up and waiting. I have create a quick list to help and remind you of what to when the whole “hurry and wait” gets overwhelming.
Have plans instead of expectations – Plan for the future rather than have a strong believe that something will happen. Plans help you readjust when things don’t go as planned. Expectations can lead you to disappoint and up set because your beliefs can be crush when things don’t happen the way you want.
Be ready for various outcomes – Next once you have your plan set plan some more for different scenarios that could happen. This builds flexible into your thinking and without creating disappointment. Also, thinking about different outcomes allows you to openly your mind to new possibilities rather than only hoping for one outcome that might not happen.
Work on what you can control – Focus on your daily life and routines like work, school, or taking care of yourself and home instead of worrying about the unknown. No matter what there will always be times you are waiting for the next thing. It better to live in the now and do better where you can.
Whether your hurrying up and waiting for your spouse to join the military, come back from training or a deployment, waiting for a promotion, to move to the next city, or to raise your child you are always hurrying up to wait. It’s just what it is. Hurry up and wait! Now that your spouse in the military get used to this type of philosophy.
What are some situations you have had to “hurry up and wait” and what did you do? Share you thoughts and leave a comment!
Music is exactly what you need when you are missing your other half. Music can help heal the soul and make you feel whole. I remember all thru my early twenty’s I was always creating playlists and making CD’s for me to listen in my car. I created music playlist for when I went to the gym, for when I felt sad or happy, or for when I wanted to go out and party. There are so many benefits from listing to music like being able to sleep better, relieve stress, ease physical pain, and music makes you happy!
“Music seems to play an important part in the lives of most people. In the realm of a relationship, it is a key ingredient in any romantic night. Music is powerful in that it can take you back in time to specific moments.” – Tips for Married Couples Dealing With Deployment
As a military spouse now I realized music can help me when cope with military life while my wife is away at training or deployed. I can make playlists and download them on my wife’s phone and we can connect thru music. Sometime we get busy in life and forget about all the little things that help make our world turns. If you are far away you can tell your significant other or spouse to listen to a song. Music is a wonderful way to express how you feel and share what you are feeling.
Here are some great songs to listen to when you are needing extra love.
Remember, no training or deployment is forever it’s only a temporary part of you significant others or spouses job. Keep your head up and stay positive. Make playlists to help you on days when its hard for you.
If you need some more music inspiration check out these other playlists created by other military spouses:
What is favorite song when you spouse is deployed? Leave a comment and share your favorite song!
Military spouses, do you have questions about moving? Do you
want to know what a DITY move is and is it right for you? Are you readjusting
to family life after a deployment? Find out what others are doing to make it
easier. Are you new to military life and trying to understand the difference
between a PCS and a PCM? Use our list of acronyms to decode the terms. MyMilitaryLife
was created by the National Military Family Association to help spouses
navigate the many adventures of military life. Answers to real-life questions
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Military Vacation Planner is the number one app to find savings
while on vacation for the Military! Backed by powerful geo-location technology,
the app quickly locks in on your location and displays the nearest discounts.
MVP is great for active duty, reserves, retired, former veteran’s, gold star
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MyBaseGuide provides essential information to all service
members and families about their installation. Newcomers can find out about
check-in procedures, registration, base regulations, maps, and the history of
the base’s commands, and units, including a telephone directory of frequently called
phone numbers. You will also find a wealth of information regarding housing,
employment, education and schools, health care and dental services, as well as
community activities and recreation.
“Serving The Best Customers in the World” for over 119 years
(1895 – present). The Shop My Exchange app not only supports active-duty
service members, but also military retirees and families! The Shop My Exchange
app offers products in every category and the same national brand merchandise
found in brick-and-mortar stores. The Shop My Exchange’s app assortment is
updated continually, offering convenience for those who don’t live near a
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when using a Military Star Card or when their online purchases total $49 or
Military.com and Navy Federal Credit Union partnered to bring you
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SCOUT the most comprehensive military discount app with
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Get the latest independent news affecting your career in the U.S.
Army, Guard or Reserve, with the Army Times for Android app. The app is free to
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The Sesame Street for Military Families app puts all of
Sesame’s bilingual (English & Spanish) resources for military families
right in your pocket! Now you can use your mobile device to access engaging
videos, articles, storybooks, parent guides, and more to help you support your preschool
and school-aged children as they encounter transitions common to military
Save and privately share all of your special family moments in
a beautiful online journal. 23snaps is the free, private family photo album
that allows parents to save and share photos, videos, and stories of their
child’s precious moments, and share them with a closed network of family and
close friends – anywhere in the world. Don’t worry if your family members don’t
have an Android phone – they can follow your updates on other smartphones,
online and by email!
Work on improving your knowledge of US military rank. This quiz will help you learn to identify each rank through all five branches of the US military. Don’t make a fool of
yourself by calling a General a Captain because you did recognize their
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military, have family in the military, or are just interesting in improving
your knowledge, US military rank quiz is a great app to have on your phone. US
Military Rank Quiz contains every officer, enlisted, and warrant officer rank
from Army, Navy, Marine Corp, Air Force, and Coast Guard. Great for all ages.
Learn information about the ranks as you play. Keep Score on how well you know
your US military ranks.
Army Emergency Relief (AER) is a private non-profit that
provides emergency financial assistance to Soldiers and their Families. AER
also provides scholarships to the Spouses and Children of Soldiers. This app
provides basic information about AER, explains the assistance and scholarship
application processes, as well as help in locating the nearest AER office.
Funded primarily through donations by Soldiers, AER is truly “Soldiers Helping
This application is dedicated to the men and women who serve their countries with pride and dedication. We greatly appreciate the life we can pursue and the freedoms provided by their sacrifice.
All branches of the military are represented. Includes quotes about war, courage, integrity, dedication, hard work, fear, sacrifice, heroes, and leadership. I’ve also mixed in some humorous quotes to mix things up.
The Virtual Hope Box (VHB) is a smartphone application designed
for use by patients and their behavioral health providers as an accessory to
treatment. The VHB contains simple tools to help patients with coping,
relaxation, distraction, and positive thinking. Patients and providers can work
together to personalize the VHB content on the patient’s own smartphone
according to the patient’s specific needs. The patient can then use the VHB
away from clinic, continuing to add or change content as needed.
What inspires you? The inspirational backgrounds in this app
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through life! Each quote is paired with a beautiful, fun or interesting
background image – you’ll find hand-sketched drawings, happy colors, and nature
images of the forest, ocean, mountains, and more. You will recognize some of
the quotes as tried-and-true favorites, while others will be new seeds of
wisdom and inspiration that you can carry with you wherever you go!
In this fast moving world sometimes we forget ourselves and
loose track. At this time we need something to rejuvenate our life or in
computing terms reboot our lives. Life reboot has been developed to initiate
this new part of you which will make you feel good about yourself and help in
rebuilding your life. This app is also useful for those who are fighting with
depression. Sometimes we just need a good joke or a motivational quote to lift
us up. Life reboot has been designed by taking guidance from various therapists
and psychological counselors. This app is designed not as a substitute to
therapy but a support to the treatment for a person who is not actually
struggling but trying to find a way out.
The Military Wedding Planner App contains everything you need to
plan the Military wedding of your dreams in one mobile wedding app! The
Military Wedding Planner contains in app and online resources for: checklists,
registry, and Military guidelines and etiquette and advice from wedding
professionals, highly touted vendor recommendations, bridal craft tutorials,
wholesale décor, seating charts and so much more.
LadyMarry Wedding Planner is the perfect wedding free app for
on-the-go wedding planning. Powered by the millions of brides and grooms,
LadyMarry helps you plan out a dream wedding in a fast and collaborative way –
from monthly wedding checklist to hands-on tips to day-of timeline, like a
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Welcome to the official mobile app for Gay Wedding Confidential.
This app is a joint development of EDGE Media Network and 14 Stories; it
contains all the information you need to know about planning your gay wedding,
including some neat interactive features.
*Remember you can Always down load my app for FREE!
Lesbian Army Wife was created for spouses of actively-serving Army and Military personnel. Our hope and desire is to provide support, education, and resources, for lesbian couples and families and similarly-identified (LGBT) military families.
Home2You keeps your family connected during time apart. The
count-down, count-up, and time-zone tracking features are ideal for military
families separated due to operational service, and for families experiencing
time apart due to work and other factors. The pass code feature ensures your
countdown and private videos and photos are always secure.
Military life is never easy. The Soldier is usually away taking care of government business and the ‘soul mates’ are left to take care of the home front. The strong ‘voices’ of the soul mates sends a clear message to all who will listen, “Soldier, we are here for you, we are your support, we LOVE and miss you dearly!”. This mobile app combines poems and love sonnets from wives, fiances and girlfriends to their soldier. Whether together for a long marriage or short get acquainted time, the pain of separation is real. Also included are pages and pages of support site links, calendar for your countdown homecoming, videos of some GREAT homecomings, pictures of those special moments and more. This mobile app will keep you close to your loved one through the eyes of those whom have been there before.
What are your favorite app? Leave a comment and let me know!
Blogging is a creative process just as anything else is from painting to drawing. As a painter, artist, or blogger you begin with a blank canvas or paper and fill it with your soul. How you are feeling in any given moment and what you want to share with the world. Every creative mind shares and expresses their art differently for me instead of stoking a paint brush or using a pencil to draw I craft my art while sitting, typing away, using words to take my audience on an adventure. I love creating a warm and welcoming place for my audience.
Recently, I have been thinking, reevaluating my blog and what I want to write about. I love writing. I love words. I love sharing my ideas and helping others. However, I do want to write broaden the subjects that I write about and share my experiences. I had been scowling at the internet and Pinterest for ideas on what to write about for the average 30 somethings. Most often, I think I may get too caught up in my life. I probably don’t take enough time to capture what it is I’m thinking about.
2013 was a big year for me, I was able to publish my poetry book and it’s available on Amazon right now. I also got married and attempted my first go around with blogging. I started blogging about RV-ing in Southern California. It was one of my hair brained ideas – I wanted to live in an RV. I watched all those tiny house shows on TLC and I desperately wanted to downsize and save money. My wife followed me down this crazy road from living in a house to purchasing an RV. Of course it was amazing content and I wrote about it all. The problem was we couldn’t quality for a loan to get an RV. So after sharing my experience I stopped blogging about RV-ing because at the time there was no way we could purchase an RV.
Although time passed I still wanted to blog. My passion is writing and helping others. In 2015 my wife decided she would like to reenlist in the Army. Of course the wheels in my brain started turning. I decided I wanted to know everything about military life. I wanted to support my wife in her journey back into the Army. The only thing was I couldn’t find websites specifically aimed at lesbians in the military. I didn’t despair I just Googled my little heart and bought any book that interested my about being a military wife.
I was along for the ride as my wife continued the process of reenlisting in the Army. I wished there were more blogs or websites about lesbians in the military and their stories. I found a few wonderful websites, but not exactly what I wanted. Since I was between blogs I decided to create a blog and website to help share my story about being a lesbian army wife and what it was all about.
Blogging is a wonderful undertaking for those who want to share and create content for the world. I encourage you to blog or keep blogging if you feel like giving up. Blogging can a lot of research on your chosen topic. There are days you don’t want to write or wonder why you are writing or ask yourself does it matter what I have to say? Is anyone listening? I can guarantee you someone right now is benefiting from my experiences, why not yours? Remember, its about never giving up if you are behind. I really wish I could be 3 or 4 posts ahead of myself instead of 3 to 4 post behind, but that’s okay. That’s for another day and another blog post. I keep writing every day. I keep trying and I do what I love.